Every one will be good if you take Postive...

Today I am away from home and abroad and I am living the perfect life, dont get carried away with the word "PERFECT LIFE" I used here, I will portray you what I meant. The idea of this post is to talk about different people I encountered and intern what they thought me. in fact what i learnt by observing them.

From the past 2+ years I unknowingly started analyzing people whom I know and even whom I am not aware. Initially it gave me an impression that I am good in analyzing but now if I think and ask myself, if any time analyzed myself? the answer I have is NO. I have met few some people here in Singapore who made me think twice before I deceide.

As usual I started  forecasting about my technical skills and started the journey of proving that I am great. This time I had a chance to meet a senior by name Vamshi. one day during the conversation with him during tea time.. he was telling few things in generic..I asked him a question and he is talking to another colleague of mine..He stopped that conversation and very casually said that he would answer that question after his conversation with the other. From that moment I decided I would never stop or break any others conversations in the middle. we had a great chat a couple of times and few points that are worthy that one should look upon in their professional life's

1) Never judge people, If a colleague is not doing well its not his fault. Its the failure of the management who never gave him enough space for him to work (or) fault of the management who have hired that person without proper interview. But Still u can use that person to work on some thing if u train him and give him the comfort

2) IF you feel u have high levels of IQ, What is the point of you conveying others that you have that? others will know that if you really have

3) Stop talking much, Start listening and I promise u will find the difference,Be polite and never underestimate anyone, everybody is good at some thing which we cannot be.

4) Never keep yourself in the problem solver shoes. Some times  u might fail and that time people never remember your past positive actions for them


5) Be Active pump energy into others, Be lively and ur thoughts would be the same


6) Care for the ones who cares you. Life is not limited to a single friend or a person. You will not be able to satisfy every one whom u think off..


7) Never Ask a person, what they think about you. If you do ..You are letting your self down. You are the best one to analyze yourself. No ones knows your strengths and weakness better than you.


8) While taking a advice from others..Just check if its really an advice..You will find people who will mislead you for their own benefits


9) life is a one time experience, why do you let others play or influence ur thoughts.. ur friends.. ur enemies every one is the result of your various ways dealing ur life. 


Be Happy and make others happy. Some might think you are a fool, Some might find you odd ..at the end you know what you are..one day others will know. Live like its you for others and not like for others it's you.

-Ram

Good person ....

Hi guys Every thing I write here is something related to the present scenarios in todays world......Here I am not drawing any line to ditinguish betwen good person or a bad person...I was thinking about how one become a good preson or Bad person ...I could draw some conclusions..My own conclusions...and you might not agree :-).

IF I consider "GOOD PERSON" as a single word...Then good person is inversly propotional to the word "SELFISHNESS"..If a person has helped you or contributed(or some favour) some thing  to you or your friend(some body else related to you..let it be in general) we will have some kind of postive impression on the same and from the next instance you look at him with the same...though a small negative approach has been shown by that person we do compromise ourself because of the previous impression we had on them...if the same approach is shown by person on whom we have a neagtive impression we will not accept it and focus that as something stupid that one shouldnot behave or do in life time...

Now I dont wanna discuss much obout whom we call a bad person...let me keep my understanding or observations about the one whom we call "GOOD PERSON".  ONE REMAINS AS A GOOD PERSON NOT BECAUSE HE IS GOOD, BUT BECAUSE HE NEVER GOT AN OPPURTUNITY TO SHOW HIS SELFISHNESS.  (Avakasam raka/laeka okadu manchevadu ga migilipothadu)...Guys before nagating with me..just think

This happens with all of us..we like few people and we try getting close to them to enjoy their company..for getting close to them we start some kind of actions in favour of the other person to gain a trust or impression or some other thing...these actions which we do varries from person to person based on the importace we give to the respective persons..Though good are we not Selfish?...for being to be called good.

Bottom line is .... mostly today we act to be good most of the times...

L"U" V

This is a Intresting topic...Might not be for your guys..but for me...I am not trying to define this word or give a meaning of this word. I will keep my experiences and leave every thing to your assumptions..derive what ever you can. At the end I am damm sure you will relate ur self with me at some point when you start reading the below

When I was into my 10th standard..I used to like a girl in the same class of mine. I was in fact mad about her and I named this feeling LUV..but I came to know some where down the realation she is a sister of mine ...but my feeling towards her never changed but this time this piscesian is cleaver enough and never conveyed this to any one because he knew that he will get belted if he tells it to some one. Now If I ask myself if it is really LUV? my genuine ans would be "NO" and I name that feeling as "LUST".

Most of the time we often confuse between the words(rather than calling words I call them feelings)"LUV" and "LUST". Its a human tendency to react towards the opposite sex when you find them attractive or good enough..and now we should name that feeling in a very posh way so that it can be shared across or communicated across.....because if you go to somebody and say I have a LUST on her..its sounds a bit odd and even hard so people around you would loose their impression on you...Just to avoid all these nonsense MODERN WORLD started using the word LUV...At the starting of this paragraph I said we confuse between LUV and LUST but it isn't the case...we know what we meant and what our feeling is ... but we knowingly overrite the word LUST with LUV in todays world to defend ourselfes. Funniest part is children from their preprimary started using this..Now please dont ask me whatz that feeling, is it LUST or LUV? you go bang your head get the answer and let me know. But I call that as LUST (coz its a kind of  reaction responding to opposite sex, lust should not be a negative word) than LUV coz they dont know what LUV is.....even I dont know the meaning of LUV till date.. but to me it is a "matured thought"

luv to me is a genuine feel or confidence that you give him/her stating "u r more than me". Its a promise of giving and not expecting. Its a concept of understanding and not complaining. Its about effection not a pretending action, finally its life time mutual agreement ,not a days deal.

Before ending this post..let me post you a quote that I read some where..."LUV doesnt exist without LUST "..I dont know if you agree but I belive 

--Chandu

Influence......

"The capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions". This the meaning you would get if you google my title. Always all the time knowingly, unknowingly, or with Passion we get Influenced by others and on that we build our character and we will carry it till the end of our life.

The time we are born we dont know what character is, We grow observing  both postive and negative actions or emotions of others which will have impact on ourself. If we like those we embed those in ourself and we try Immitating those at times and move on.If we dont like those we still remember those actions and they would be our benchmarks which we never can be or want to be or should not be..

I am not exemption, I get influenced very soon and I take an xtra step and start Imitating the perons from whom I got influenced. its general human tendency. I still remember the film "Idiot" a telugu film which had a great influence..Rather I can call it as Impact on me. when I say impact I inadvertently I  started inherting the characteristics of  the hero "Ravi Teja" I could only sense that when my friends said that I talk the way he did and though I know that is not my real charecterstics I could not giv it up coz they that is registered were already embeded in me.The recent experience is ..I took a friend of mine to some restaurant...while speaking to that friend...she asked me if I could stop acting like "SURESH"  and by the way SURESH is my previous Project manager who is a good...and I like the way he handles every one especially with the series of questions he posssess and try to get the exact things from the reesources. I am attracted to the way he deals with individuals and his conversations.......comming to the topic. till then I never knew that he has some infkuence on me..and from that time when I think if I really copied him?...My answer is YES...they are few words and expressions that were copied and rooted in me..few such words are  the way he spells "Agreed"  "Yes or NO"....the way he raises his eyebrows and show his hands to tell us "U deceide "... Finally what I am trying to draw here is.......

Your LIFE... and the way you are LIVING now... is copied or influenced from/by others with some built in qualities of yours.  feel free to comment if you dont agree.

We blindly belive the things that majority of the people belive...here I can quote an example of GOD From our childhood we were told that there exist a supernatural person who is controling the world? I have a different opnion on this..which might sound a bit ODD to you guys but thats what I belive..I have few questions for you now....

Does GOD exists? If your answer is "Yes" ..What does he do?  if ur answer is "he will help us in difficulties and punish the Wicked" then  What is he doing when the small little girl Vaishnavi is was packed in a plastic box and was dumped in a boiler of 1000 degree centigrade? (For the people who dont know Vaishnavi, She is a daughter of a politician cum busineess man. She is kidnapped and was crueally killed . she is some 8 years old ) If you are genuine enough now answer this urself...Do you think she has done some thing seriously wrong for which the so called GOD took her away from this world in such a cruel way? then dont you think even he is cruel? do you think she at the age of 8 will be able to think what is really good and bad? ... Though she is bad.does she deserve that kinda punishment .. do you think the one who killed her is a Human? if not what do u call GOD....I dont mind if you get me wrong...My point here is to say we belive the concept of god which is agreeable..but if we say he is the one who is driving the world and is responible for the universe...I dont AGREE(But this is what most of the people belive).

Lord RAMA,BUDHA, JESUS  and many others .......these are few people who are set as an example for Man kind. they are the superstars of their respective era's...example..Lord Rama is a good man and might have did many good things for which people at that time are very happy..after rama passed away his good nature is still remembered and is communicated to other genarations there after....and even today we set him as an example of a good man. This is perfectly fine...Call him GOD for the things he has done.. that is preety fine...but if you say Rama will save me if I jump into the fire, Rama will stop the evil things to happen with you if you pray him..If he is a God in literal sense why should one pray him? what about others who dont pray him? is he fine if the others who dont pray him are suffering? if yes is he not selfish? Can GOD be selfish?....just think.. is this agreeable. To me they are good humans, real time heroes who influenced many people..Thats it.I dont agree if you say the have some magical powers...who can get bread to some hundreds with a some mantra and stufff...then I call that as magic show and call him a good magician.

In real world Today GOD is a Religion, Religion is a vote bank for politicians, Religion is a revange for Laden, Religion is a revenue for governmets...greater the income from a particular temple/church/mosque etc.. that powerful is the god in that place..I pity the word "GOD" as it is even made commercial...I never understand all thesee..... because our parents and others around us say GOD is powerfull we agree and follow the same..

The above questions are the ones which I have no solid answers. If any one can please do post me and educate me in the form of comments...Till know I never prayed GOD coz I dont know what to pray. I Never understood the concept of prayer. Let me analyzee..what do we do in prayers..we chant some mantras or some words in which we praise GOD. Why should we always praise GOD? I dont know...does god like to be praised always? will he help only the ones who praise him?...NO IDEA for me..I go to temple because I belive.. one has built the temple because he is an extrodinary human being who is remebered for his good since ages..and temple atmosphere gives me a pleasent peace of mind scychlogically..People who were reading this might not have answers for few of my questions but still they belive in literal form of GOD because they are afraid that they would become an ODD MAN OUT in this society.

Ohh GOD this is becomming a big essay...Let me stop this here and continue with other things...

This is an attempt to understand few things which I never understood till now....I got influenced by many people and things. but I could not get answers for the ones I asked.....

-Ram

What is this ..About?

I dont know what to name this Post..Might be there are many things running in my mind....also now I am not able to restrict this topic to a particular thing...first thing this is not a post ....this is my voice and its me and again me.

Where to start..and what to..ok..Morning I was reading RGV blog and one thing catched my eye .. "we all live by accident and die by intent" I have a lot to comment on this..All the happiest moment's one has in life is by accident and happen unexpectedly..will you agree or will you not?..atleast in my case its true..I am always an expect'ist(dont know if u find this in dictionary)..from my childhood this has become a hobby of mine..I always expect a lot for every small thing.. and till date I am not successfull but still expect.. and now habituated..coz now I know the end result..I never told this to any body coz I never knew this until I analyzed my self because of a person in my life...

Small, small things catches my attention...they can be small for the one whom I cares but for me those are the sweet memories Which I can give them....confused ?..so here are few examples...

One of my relative is in love with some one whom I really dont like(might be bacause of her attitude) and for sure know that his parents even dont like..his parents were too close to me ..so that I cannot see them suffering about him In fact I dont want him to suffer later on..and I am successful in explaining him about the consequences and finally get out of that relationship..still his would be a love marriage..with the other girl with whom his parents are even happy..and now he is enjoying and his parents never know about the background work I did..but at some point if they know..I am the happiness which they have at that moment..I am happy for that.

A very good friend of mine is in crush with a girl..we see her regularly and we talk about her whenevr we are togeather in cafteria.she is a tech lead and is reserved kinda attitude.and the time has come where he is leaving thhe company and we planned some thing to give him..and we gave him..and its just a gift..I never knew how much he felt that for a gift...but half an hour before he is leaving... the girl whom we always talk about came to our zone and wished him all the best infront of our whole team..with a cute big smile and simple shakehand..I was speachless and even he was..the happiness In his eyes will be remembered for long than a gift we gave himm...Before me approaching that girl for this help..I never thought how she would feel coz I am not bothered about that Girl, I am always botherd about the friend of mine...I remember "U ASK ...U GET". But I Should thank her for everything..and I know THANKS is a small word.

They are many such Incidents...few friends of mine said I was mad in my thoughts...and they even asked me How can I think that stupid..In the first case above few asked me y Am I encouraging him..when I know he will suffer..The Answer is "If I started comndeming ..do you think he will share any thing about his relation? "... In the second case above friends me approaching that girl they asked me "why would she care for your friend ship?"...yes I agree..but we humans live with some sentiments..If we can convey them in a right manner every one values those...I dont know how many of u agree But I believe in this and Succeeded most of the time..Many asked me Why I was doing all theseee....I dont have any answer to give them..But when I started thinking why I am doing all theseee...Since my childhood there is a particular day every year I wanna a celebrate heavily...and offcourse expect a good gift...Because of the circumstances..It nevr happened..It never happened since 20 years..All these 20 years evry year that passed gave a bad memories to remember...I missed the small expectation which always carried a big pain.The day I am talking about is my "BIRTHDAY".unknowingly that Influenced me in many ways.

This Year 2009 She gave me a surprise..Infact happiness..And I dont know if I have any other word in english..to describe this feeling...I never expected that...Feb 23 I remember somebody calling my friend some where around 11:00 pm..he suddenly went out and I know I will be alone this birthday...and I was bit unhappy and simply sleeping....When I am not in a good mood..that will be reflected in my face..and people catch it soon....at 12...I cut a cake which she has sent and it is not from bangalore but from HYD...and a good shirt...These 2 are nothing..If I would not have be feeling bad.. being alone...She is there all the time with me ...during my though days and during my happiest moments..but I never told her She is Important to me..I nvr said I care her..I never said I luv her..And I nvr knew if some body cared for me more than her...and guys she is my "SISTER" Recently She droped me the below mail...I know I am the cause for her tears while composing this mail...

hi,

you have spoke many things but u did not hear me , and it is also difficult to speak some things so i am posting u this.....so let me tell u .....firstly u said u did not like ,me telling that i will return the money.but let me tell u.i felt my self respect there....and i promise i will never repeat this....secondly u said i feel that u did not care for me....ya,its true.when i spoke that lines i felt so but not now.....because, u know me ,i always wanted u to be very close with me.i dont know whether u remember or not i always used to tell u about swathi's brother, u used to tell me that u dont like such kind.as time passed i thought u are of such kind that u cant express ur feelings.and i was used to it.,,,,,,,,,,but when i came here i came to know of things which i did not expect from u.... i dont know whether u remember or not ..i used to see ur messages....and now i agree that i did that act every day.i know it is bad.but still i did.but let me tell u one thing i saw only those msgs which came from pinky and which u sent for pinky...first time i saw it accidently. from then i started to see daily...and the msg i saw for first time was "u mean a lot to me,and today i am like this because of u." i did not understand this. and i saw ur reply .i dont remember it exactly but it is really very consoling.......... in the hard times of my life u never consoled me, and u never tried to know the feelings of mine.... in fact u scolded me when i was crying........and in those msgs which u sent her, u used to say gud morning, all the best.and many more things which u felt,they were encouraging,caring and every thing. in all those msgs i saw u the way which i want u to be, but not with me but with pinky. i did not get this.....i thought when u can be in such a way to her why cant u be with me? what's wrong with me....and i thought of telling u the same...i tried many times but i could not...its not that easy ...i used to talk to u indirectly many times but u did not get it.....and u used to tell me a couple of times"dont expect anything from me." u left to london afterwards.and i thought about this then i felt i was wrong not u .and may be i felt this way as i was possesive .and sarat used to tell me frequently that i am becoming possesive in this issue.and i agree to this because i am possesive regarding my family .after wards i realised this and thought i should not be so....

before i used to hav the concept that the people whom i love should love me the same way.afterwards i changed and followed ur line...... dont expect....and stopped expecting...and loving the people whom i like the same way as before......and left the rest ot it to them......but to tell frankly after that i was very happy.....now i hav no complaints......now i am used to it..... i feel embrassed when u say some things to me. .

To say during all this phase i know that u love me.but i did not get why u were so unexpressive with me while u wre so with someone else...to say during the last few years u did not give me the chance to know about u neither u gave me the chance to speak about me.....may be u might hav developed individuality or may be its the age difference or the gender difference.......think none of us were wrong ...may be were are brought up like that.

and lastly i loved two people very much one was u and the other was sarat......and i was hurt very badly because of u and learnt somethings in life to be happy....and u were the people who made me tough...and i dont blame u people because it was me who messed up ...in one way u people made me the way i should be in the present society....................... these days i am happy because u were speaking some of the things ...

byeeeee
ur loving sis

indu.

Friends What do you feel reading this email... Yeah Ur correct ...Yes I am ... I am stupid...Guys this is not a letter from a sis to a brother and its not only to me....It is to every one who is not expressive to their beloved ones...and the person at the other end will only know the pain..We know we care for them..They even know we care for them but small small lovable words from you make them happy... I know a friend of mine who is behaving the same way I did to my sis..I dont know if she finds herself when reading this..Hope she recognise herself..If you care for some one go to them and tell them How much you care them..it can be friends, it can be ur parents..it can be any one else...Every one knew that you love them the most..And they will feel it only when you tell them...which they never expect from you..Emooo at some point ...you wanna tell them and at that moment they may not be with you..."You will never know the pain until that person moves away from your life..and then if you feel also.... it doest make sense...live to the moment"...Finally Dont behave foolishly like me. I gave evrything to every one when required and evn when not required...But to my sis...I gave "           ".

My post is not complete without writing some thing about her..she is someone whom I unknowingly think about almost all the time.she is the one who induced the word "dream" and Introduced the word "HOPE" into a small little word of mine..I am selfish in choosing her and she is even selfish in choosing her destination... hmmmmm...kkk I am not authorised ..... so NO COMPLAINTS..NO DEMANDS....chooodoooo  na yaar kuch aur baath karthee...

Guys please..I am not a writer..I dont like somebody calling me like that..Please feel my thoughts rather than calling me a writer...or simply understand if these make sense...I am not expressive..so Might be because of that I will take some time to think and speak..But I am changing...And Promise will change..I will take some time...Please be with me .. I dont wanna a miss you ... and finally luv you guys.

 

--Chandu

Note: I dont want any one to call me or discuss about these with me..Please understand..If you have any thing..Keep a comment..Let it be simple

My "ATTITUDE"....

Hello Friends, I ever know that this BLOG(thoughts) of mine would make you think for while..and if it is doing it..I am a happy person. I never expected this response...I promise I will never pen down anything for somebody..If I start doing it I am afraid that I would manipulate things unknowingly…So everything I pen down in this space are my thoughts and Incidents in my life that I associate to some topic selected.. And I write everything here..just only to kill my lonely time with which I am not COMFORTABLE all the time.

My post for this time is “ATTITUDE”… I selected this bcoz almost every day I think about this word … and this word keeps me conscious in every action I do. Here I would engrave two things firstly “What is ATTITUDE to me” and secondly “What is MY ATTITUDE”

"What is Attitude to me.."

I will keep my thought of looking at Attitude but don’t curse me if that makes no sense.. for example I f we look at a tree...the roots of it are spread so deep since ages.. with its past experiences and because of which you see Flowers and fruits exposed outside. For me roots seems to be "ATTITUDE" which you could never see but the actions you do and the decisions you make depend on the same..

Attitude is some kind of approach which can draw people to u or move away people from you…To keep it simple Attitude is your original character.

I can quote you a example..You went to somebody house and you found RS 10000 on the floor and those other people never noticed it and you have every chance to take it…. Everybody is fond of money.. Don’t you?..But the ones who organize themselves and give value to ethics and leave the money as it is are Classified as good people(with +ve attitude).and who got persuasive to that money and accomidate it ..are Classified as bad  One(with –ve Attitude)…here the Classifying line is…a decision of you taking the money or u not taking it ..I have a question now.. To what extent it is correct to atleast have a thought of having that money?..leave about ur decision of having it or not, it is secondary. I leave that to your wisdom.

I can quote you a similar example..this time it is restricted to guys…We watch many movies ... How many of you don’t see a heroine with a bad thought or bad intention? Again I dont need an answer, answer urself. The one who has control over himself’s and forget it after the movie is portrayed as GOOD and the other who simply lives in a world of having the same intention and talking about the same is portrayed as BAD. I believe Everyone is a criminal by heart but its the Attitude which classifies the people either good or bad.

There is nothng we could do about how people react to us, All we can do is control the mode in which we react, So that atleast others won’t react pessimisticly . I belive Attitude is some thing for sure you won’t get it in a day, it is built with your good or bad experiences in your past , it is like a Dairy of your past and is a Voice of your present.

“What is MY ATTITUDE”
Guys you should tell me this…...I cannnot simply go ahead and say its my attitude but can say How I  try building it...

Quotes, Movies, Chatting with Friends..these are the sources of my learning’s and they contribute much to my attitude..A simple quote on a chat bandar can draw my attention...I can give you some examples of the above and how they effect me…

Quotes:

• “Even a stopped clock is correct twice a day”...(poster in the busstop)

“He is nothing” has no meaning from the Time I took the above seriously. I stopped complaining about any body and stopped gossiping about others.

• “I don’t desire anything which I don’t deserve, If I Deserve Some thing I will make sure I will get it”.....(Cousins orkut profile)

This quote has completely changed my lifestyle…If I think of giving up anything at some point this will never allow me to give up. It always says U DESERVE IT.

Movies (Dialogues)

• Everything that happens good is because of a person not because of GOD (Jeevitham lo machee adee jarigina adee manishe vallaee devudu valla kadu) (Some recent flop movie)

Even this influenced me much. I started showing affection in my conversations and started finding new acquaintances…at the end what matters is how many remember you and how you are remembered

• No Matter how big is the sky, It seems to be small for a wing of a small bird                       (Akasam entha peddadina…rivvu manna guvva pilla raekka mundu chinadaenuraaa) (Siriveennala seethrama shastry lyrics)
There is nothing big we cannot achieve, Its all about how you look at it.  when a small bird is not giving up thinking about the huge sky..why do you think of giving up for a small problem which is not even worth comparing with sky..I started comparing myself with the little bird when I feel...that I am giving up..and it always worked

Friends

There is one person..whom I owe a lot...He is never a friend of mine...I can call him my guardian, His acquintance is a gods gift...I am not naming him here As I have a plan of separate post for him...

I will tell you a Incident..which tells us his attitude..and the same influencing me..

We were going to a shop nearby walking....a group of 4 of 5 people came to us asking if we know Hindi.  I know why they asked that..and I even know their expectation..coz I have came across these type of people many times..and the very next moment they tell you they were lost here and wanted to go to their native place for which they need money......Hope everyone has this type of experience....I simply moved away from them...and this guy stopped..and started listening to them..I am afraid this guy would donate some..I went up to him and said this is alll scrapp....but he is still listening to them and gave 300 rs...I was like frustrated...and he is still listening to them...those people were asking for 400 more..Infact I felt they were demanding..But this guy gave some amount again and sent them.....I started shouting at him...what the hell is he doing...I know he is into some financial issues...I was questioning him and telling himm alll that is allllll   scrap...also arguing why he gave them ..inspite of me telling to him beforeee ?...he simply answered.."I know I will get fooled 99 times, But atleast 1 person who is really in that need will be benifited and I am happy for that".  Guys how many of you find a person like this these days.. and dont you think That I should be proud of having this guy in my life...?

The above things are only few things that made me think..and change..They are many such things and this static page for sure cannot accomidate all those... These are few things which we always come across in our daily life and we just ignore them...I even watch flop movies..coz most of the a messages I took is from them(Might be while watching hit movies I concetrate on the story..not sure).....I like making new acquitances..this shows me my caliber of approach towards others..every new good friend in my life is my acheivement, my asset, my happiness,(isnt it a good feeling.. when u think of a staranger whom you never know before in this busy vast world caring you...listening to you ..admiring you? ) ...Friends forward me a lot of mails on some good stories, quotes, cartoons...I remember very few of those and those will keep my failure away from me most of the time...they never allow me to give up. This is how I feel I am building my Attitude......Some times when I think about ....where I am. in life..its always pleasent for me and I feel I am always lucky in getting what I want..starting from my Mobile, Bike, Friends, Job, well wishers. relatives....ETC. If you want something you should work in getting that something..When Something existed..damm sure there should also be a way to get that something exists...and your job is to just find that way out..If you remember this you will realisseee that no problem exists without a solution.

Finally.. Always think about what you LEFT, not what you LOST and Never agree that you were wrong, Instead tell them what you tried.


Sometimes ..what you hate ..gives you some thing usefull..I started this post saying I am not comfortable with my lonliness and  only because of that I could write this big essay answer. Now I feel only when you are alone the way you look at world differs.....Will you Agree?

What is life.......

Hello to everyone on this page..Previous posts of mine were the Incidents in my Life..those would be meaningful to the persons who knew me …its just another junky blog for the rest of the world…Now I wanted to keep in something which makes sense to everyone. I am not here to Impress anyone..or educate anyone..I am here to keep in my thoughts and kill my time..only my time.

I choose and prefer to write something about this four letter word “LIFE”… where everyone has different approach and different definition on their own..”WHAT you mean by LIFE?”..I have asked this question to many of my acquaintances, friends, relatives, and even strangers ..Most of the time I never got the answers but got the definitions..saying..Life is a GAME, Life is a CHALLENGE…Life is this ..and Life is that..YES I completely agree with them and they are good quotes..”Life is me myself..Impacting others either positively or negatively” this is my answer to the above question.. … I can elaborate you on this with few real time instances….

Mohan das Karamchand Gandhi…Adlof Hitler ..they doesn’t need an introduction and are the great personalities of the world history even today. Now I have a question here.. Why Gandhi is called MAHATMA and why is Hitler just a Hitler? Give a thought and you would understand…

There is a incident I can quote here.. I was traveling in a tube, on my way to Office in london.. I have a habit of saying HI to the ones sitting beside me, and this continued even that day and in response other man Introduced himself as KALAM and when I enquired about his full name he said it’s “ABDUL KALAM”…Automatically I started giving him much attention and till date he is a good friend of mine…WHY DID I GAVE HIM MUCH ATTENTION that day?..When I ask this myself today..the answer I have is..Probably I started relating him with our ex president ABDUL KALAM..by his name initially, As I have positive impression towards KALAM might be that would have been carried forward to that person and that might have resulted in pleasant communication . What if the same GUY introduced himself as “MUSHRAFF”..would he be a friend of mine?..for sure NO because..I would have started relating him with mushraf initially…and my conversation would have been the other way (the feeling which I have on mushraff influences me and directs me that way)…..Both are presidents, why do we respond differently at each of them? what is the dividing line that differentiate both of them ?

Most of the time its human tendency that we start relating people by some attributes (good or bad) to someone who has influenced us or impacted us(positively or negatively). People even start relating others with you at some point of your LIFE, now its upto you, how you want to be related, respected and remembered for the rest of your life and even after your life…

I also want to engrave my Approach Towards Life. Knowingly or Unknowingly almost all the time we search for happiness throughout our life, instead of creating it for ourselves. I am even afraid sometimes we alter the meaning of happiness and live in the false world. We make the things complicated..we give importance to our ego’s which dominates our feelings and emotions.

Every one of us have dreams..and we consider them only DREAMS and pay no attention… remember even the tough journey of 100 steps would start with a normal single step.

I would quote a example here. I observed a guy very closely in my life..they belong to a normal middle class family..Things used to be fine if they don’t have any unexpected expenses..The good part is he joined ENGG and his sister even joined her bachelors…for the world this family is above middle class and is well established. I remember a day where they doesn’t even have bowl rice to fill their stomachs ..I can never forget his mother borrowing a bowl of rice from the neighbors to feed their family, and can still remember she borrowing the sum of three rupees to send her daughter to the college…I only felt bad because I can do nothing. This guy has completed the ENGG.. luckily he got a job in a MNC where his pay is 4.5k per month but he should give a bond for 5 years… he cant say no to it because of the circumstances he is in…he used to convey me all the dreams he has..but none of them seem to be real..I used to simply listen coz its costs me nothing. I met him recently and now he says most of things which he told me were in place…He has a good job where his sal is nearly 16 times of his intial sal and he has bought some land which he promised that he would get it in the next 5 years…I was happy to hear this from him and I was almost into tears when I think of his past….The guy whom I was portraying till now is ME MYSELF…….. This is not to convey I am successful, But to convey, until you know the pain and feel the importance of something, you will never try something hard.. Keep pessimism out of your life no matter how hard life is ..

Never forget that it is natural for people to forget to be grateful, so if we go around expecting gratitude, we are headed straight for lots of heartaches. So keep a note of not expecting any thing from others. And then if you get it occasionally, welcome it as a surprise and enjoy it. Believe me, keeping yourself on a neutral approach towards others and expecting less in return can make your life happier and better off. If you longed for love, happiness and gratitude, the only way in this world that you can ever be loved is by stop asking for it and start pouring out with a hope of return. So just don’t think much and try it out. Do you know that the most important thing in life is not to capitalize on your gains but to make profit from your losses. So keep working and derive happiness from your life

Today I am still waiting for someone which I never knew that can be mine and you guys know who that is..I live in hope yesterday, today and even tomorrow…And at some point of time I should even answer my emotions and control them and now I don’t have an answer to convey them…

Something Good that happens in your life is because of a person..so see every acquaintance of your’s to be happy. Give them surprises..which they could never expect…these are some things which others will never forget……..have fun……enjoy..lead ur life